Janae...creator of my awesome Native Honey bag (and the author of "Pink Moss", the fabulous blog that I won it from!) came up with an amazing idea for her daughters...I loved it from the moment I heard about it.
To get words of wisdom from people who have already lived and survived the tough teen years. She asked us to write a letter to our 12 year old selves and, knowing what we know now, give advice to that 12 year old.
So...here goes nuthin':
In this, your twelfth year of life, you will focus on things that are not worth focusing on. Popularity is not something that is worth ditching a friend for...nor is it something that will ever really matter when you find yourself in, "real life".
Trust me on this..."popularity" means squat. Nothin', nada, zip...when it comes right down to it. What matters is loyalty, honesty, and truthfulness.
Friends who judge you based upon what clothes you wear or how you do your hair are not worth your time and energy. And as for the friends that try to dictate who you may or may not hang out with? Ditch 'em.
Pay them NO attention.
They are the "losers" who feel so insignificant that they bully their way to friendships and cliques. And you are worth more than that.
You deserve true friends and loyal friends, so please don't settle for less. The best friendships are the easy ones.
The ones where you don't need to worry about what you look like or who you're with or what you're wearing. Those are the friendships that will last forever.
You are never more beautiful than you are right now...at twelve, with your whole life in front of you.
Pretty soon, you will discover the thrill of boys...and let's be honest. These boys? Don't look twice...pass 'em by. They're also not worth any of your worrying or trying to impress.
Surround yourself with people who help make you better, stronger, happier...not with people who bring you down.
Being 12 kinda stinks...but find if you can find yourself and not be afraid to BE you, you will find that you'll be in such a fabulous spot, that everything will just fall into place.
What you need in life...what you need right now, at 12 years old, is confidence.
Confidence, my dear...confidence. And a healthy dose of respect for yourself to go along with it!
Love yourself...and live in this moment. These are some of the best years of your life, so enjoy them! Soak it in, embrace yourself and all that you have to offer the world...because, YOU are fabulous.
YOU are worth it.
YOU are wonderful!
All my love, respect, and admiration,
Your (much) Older You