I've gotta gripe. A big, fat, major gripe...wanna know what it is?
I don't understand the concept, the reason, or the logic behind posting a negative comment anonymously. What, exactly, are you afraid of?
I wrote a couple of posts last week that stirred up some controversy. Here are a couple of comments. (I posted the other one here.)
- I am a mother who has children in their 20's- all are successful, happy, independent children- an actor, a doctor, and a college senior headed to law school. This debate has been going on for years and really needs to stop providing divisions between working moms and stay at home moms. I had my own business and yet was there for my children before and after school, volunteered at their schools and had family meals together. My husband and I worked together as a team to make this work for all. There is no " better " "right way" . Each family needs to figure it out for themselves and needs the support of the "village" so we can all use our strengths and talents to make us all- moms, dads, children and families stronger. I had hoped this type of discussion was behind us and that we were all a little more enlightened about the value of choice and opportunity for all.
Wow. I am not sure where to with this. You can be a crappy mom who stays home with her kids and you can be a crappy mom who works. And do you honestly think that most working mothers are some sort of feminazi's that want their children to struggle?
Of course, one of the things that could help people like you who are preaching this type of thing, is healthcare reform, which you oppose. Seems kind of stupid to me. Logic is a good thing.
Now, the second commenter could have had some valid arguments in there, but instead, decided to throw in the snark. The "feminazis wanting their kids to struggle" and the whole healthcare thing. I viewed his/her comment as weightless.
No name = no validity.
And as for the first commenter...I think he/she spun my words. First of all...REMEMBER, I AM A WORKING MOM!!!
If a person can not write a comment and stand behind their words with their name (notice that I said "THEIR" name, whether their blogging pseudonym or their real name...not a fake, made up name for blog bashing) then I strongly feel that the comment should not be posted.
I liken it to real life...if we met face to face, and you couldn't say your comment directly to me without, say, wearing a gorilla mask, then it probably shouldn't be said. If you find some sort of "strength" or "courage" when you hide behind a computer screen and your "anonymity", then it is false strength or courage.
Please, please, please...if you can't be respectful in your disagreement, don't post anonymously...just don't post at all. There is NOTHING wrong with not agreeing...but there is everything wrong with being snarky and disrespectful because you feel some sort of false security when posting "anonymously".
Next time, just find different words to get your point across...kind words, respectful words...and proudly sign your name.
"My mama always taught me, if you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at alllll."
-Bambi's friend, Flower