Quite awhile ago, I wrote a post about potty training.
Potty training MY way. It's was (and still is) my belief that this way is fool proof...but I've since realized something else.
As much as our kiddos need to be showing at least a few signs of readiness, the PARENT(S) also need to be ready. Dudes, potty training is a commitment. It is a "don't start until you're ready to see it through to completion" kind of a gig.
Being a realist, I recognize that basing my opinions on my 5 kiddos isn't really "perfect research"...but it's gotta count for something, no? I know, I know...same genetics, same parenting, same blah, blah, blah...but it worked.
And here is what I think is key...CONSISTENCY.
Stick to it. Resolve yourself to the fact that you WILL NOT get anything done for that day. That you WILL NOT be able to run off to Target on a whim for a week.
A WEEK. That's it. If you want it. But YOU have to want it. Sure, THEY need to show a bit of readiness (being aware of when they poop and/or pee is the biggest), and that usually happens right around 2.
Also, don't be afraid of the unders. Or even letting them go commando (especially helpful with the BM's...seems if they don't have a "safety net", you're more apt to catch them when they need to go). Remember...YOU ARE STAYING HOME. Who the heck cares if your kiddo goes without unders/pants while you're at home? It'll make your job (and ultimately theirs) easier...less clothes to get off to use the potty and less to dirty if there is an accident.
Here's my track record (not to brag, not at all, just to show you that this method does, indeed, work!):
Pal: 26 months, one day (of hell) no accidents (potty) after that. *scouts honor*
Belle: 20 months, did it herself (with my support and encouragement), don't really ever remember "training" her. It just happened.
E.W: 28 months, less than one day, went to grandma's next day (brought potty) with great success.
Hambone: 22 months, one week--my longest...I mistakenly thought his verbal ability--it was HUGE--made him ready to potty train. I was wrong, but even with him being the "least ready" of our kids, it was still a done deal within a week.
Baby Girl: Ditto her sister, maybe a tad earlier, however. No formal "training", just support and encouragement when she showed interest.
Key: Don't use Pull-Ups...at least during the day (they are just glorified diapers). Unders or nothing. Naptimes and nighttime? Well, that's up to you. Our 4 oldest kids were nighttime trained within 6 months of daytime training.
Baby Girl? Like everything else about her, she's unlike her siblings here too! She is still in Pull-Ups at night...NEARLY TWO YEARS LATER. I know I can't force the nighttime thing, but wow. I'd love to be done with Pull-Ups.
I honestly feel that (barring any special needs) you need to catch your kid before 2 1/2. From what I've seen and heard, that's the point where they seem to get "stuck in their ways", balk at the potty, and are less agreeable to trying something new. After 2 1/2, all bets are off with my plan.
Before 2 1/2? I'll betcha you'll find that it works! (At least, that's what I've heard from friends!)
PS...I LOVE potty talk! I'd love to answer questions, emails, troubleshoot. I'm no professional expert, but I still love to help with it!