Or just being cautious?
I don't know...I'm at a stand-still...and I don't know what to do.
Mr. Wonderful and I, we've agreed that we don't want our kids staying at other people's houses...unless we know them really well. Really, really well (grandparents, close friends, cousins, etc.).
I'm feeling like, perhaps, we're isolating our children from their peers by doing this, tho'. Both of us deeply feel that, at this point in our kiddos lives, family is a priority.
Family time and family life take precedence over time with friends...but I'm seeing now, especially with Big A., that outside of school, he tends to get "left out". We've talked with his teachers, they all say he gets along great with the kids, he talks about his friends at school...but he never asks to have friends over or gets invited to friend's houses.
I'm seeing it starting with Miss E., also. And a part of me...the part of me that remembers how important it is to fit in and be liked and have sleep overs, wants them to do all of that.
Then, the mother in me...you know, that incessant worrier, that irrationally fearful nut job...takes over.
I've taken care of way too many kids (and let me just say, even one is too many), who are entirely messed up because of some sort of abuse that happened to them as children.
And I want to protect my kids from that. From even the possibility of that.
But, am I hurting them in other ways?
I would be more than happy to have them "host" friends here, but I feel like there is always some "reciprocation" that goes along with that.
And how do you handle that?
Friend's mother, "Since Mary just played at your house, we'd like to have Miss E. over!"
Me, "Ah...nope. You or your husband or your neighbor might be secretly crazy child abusers. Sorry, no dice."
You see what I mean?
Bah! Why does it hafta be so hard to be a parent
sometimes all the time?!
Gosh, I had "second homes" when I was a kid...and I think I turned out all right (other than the whole, nut job weirdo part...).
So, here I sit. Wondering...how much do you push your kids to be social outside of school? How much is too much? How much is not enough?
Heavy stuff...any advice?