tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post90651625646498252..comments2024-03-06T02:27:43.423-06:00Comments on My Little Life: Letting it go...Mama M.http://www.blogger.com/profile/00675065017958191800noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-70561897963270119832010-11-11T20:19:56.304-06:002010-11-11T20:19:56.304-06:00Always just be you, because that person who does n...Always just be you, because that person who does not like you is the one with the issues. You are a wonderful human bean. ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00255686424178324749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-86096226975770434662010-11-10T10:36:32.812-06:002010-11-10T10:36:32.812-06:00You know the old saying " Be the best you can...You know the old saying " Be the best you can be and don't worry what anyone else thinks" Easier said than done, right? I used to be the same way. I spent so much time trying to please everyone and wanting everyone to like me I lost sight of the person that I am. My family knows that I am a good person, my friend's know that I am a good person, God knows, and I know, and that's enough for me now...I have found that when YOU know that you are being the best that you can be and someone else doesn't think so, that person is usually jealous of you!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592803150216238141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-43919004319268001992010-11-10T08:59:47.247-06:002010-11-10T08:59:47.247-06:00Self doubt is extremely difficult and hurtful to o...Self doubt is extremely difficult and hurtful to ourselves. It is because you are caring and compassionate that makes it hurt greater. I have found that when I am confronted with a similar situation (unavoidably several times a year), I try to become my own parent. I imagine how I would feel as a parent if one of my children were feeling and experiencing the same thing. How would I comfort them? What would I tell them? We know how wonderful/beautiful/talented/gifted etc our children are. Doing this, I am reminded that I too am a child and try to remind my self that I am wonderful/talented/beautiful/gifted despite what others may think of me. Very hard to do and to remember though!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03151643147258356426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-61097858820743891312010-11-10T06:17:54.624-06:002010-11-10T06:17:54.624-06:00man oh man am I the same way. I would do anything ...man oh man am I the same way. I would do anything to keep anyone from disliking me. even when I know I have a ton of friends I still worry about that person standing across the room who has not spoken to me that daytrooppetriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17760346169494672225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-68857555062715711442010-11-10T05:53:42.242-06:002010-11-10T05:53:42.242-06:00I too am a people pleaser, the feeling these peopl...I too am a people pleaser, the feeling these people can give you is crushing. Last spring at church in an forgiveness exercise I, using dirt and releasing it into a pot released my anger at how these people in my life made me feel and now I feel like it is their loss not mine that they feel this way. They are losing out on you not the other way around. I know easier said than done. Cyber hugs from one people pleaser to anotherAngiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17307746647340949695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-39948852907800217872010-11-10T01:01:49.596-06:002010-11-10T01:01:49.596-06:00We're all like that and you're absolutely ...We're all like that and you're absolutely right when you say He made us perfect just the way we are. Know why we all think like you? Because we're human. So, it's okay. Hope writing on your blog made you feel better.RipCurlMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03013509466348238530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-14229424437858047072010-11-09T21:40:25.706-06:002010-11-09T21:40:25.706-06:00Oh...I do understand how you feel. I like you...a...Oh...I do understand how you feel. I like you...and I always appreciate seeing life through your eyes. It is hard to just let others be though...Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06970697186745968645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-45946828525221841052010-11-09T19:44:29.757-06:002010-11-09T19:44:29.757-06:00I know how you feel. It bothers me to the point of...I know how you feel. It bothers me to the point of sweating if I'm in the presence of some one who doesn't like me. The situation makes me question myself and as much as I try to find the good in it, I think that there's something wrong with me. I've come to realize over time that people are not ALWAYS going to get along. This happens with friends and family. I always thought that you HAD to like family, blood related or married, BUT realized that it isn't true. I've had friends that we didn't see eye to eye and parted ways. It happens.<br />I think you're great!Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13493576726012326958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-16683419360892983702010-11-09T19:12:06.896-06:002010-11-09T19:12:06.896-06:00I too am such a people pleaser. Ugh, why do we do ...I too am such a people pleaser. Ugh, why do we do that to ourselves? I think we just have to find a place in ourselves that pleases just us sometimes, and realize that we aren't everyone's "flavor".<br /><br />But still....I get it.Sherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13980063502482258767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-4263809895421613882010-11-09T17:32:28.456-06:002010-11-09T17:32:28.456-06:00Ugh - I wish I could say that I have NOOOOOOOOOOOO...Ugh - I wish I could say that I have NOOOOOOOOOOOO idea what you mean... 'cept I do and it bites the big one. It hurts me to my core to be not liked by someone... which is absurd because it shouldn't matter. But, it does. It really does. Why? I think it makes us question whether or not we're the likable person we think we are. We don't see anything objectionable about ourselves so we wonder if we're missing something... if we're lying to ourselves... or if the people who do say they like us are full of it. Of course, none of that is the case, but it doesn't make the doubt any less poignant. <br /><br />Sorry you have to deal with it... I wish I had some deep wisdom for ya to make you feel less raw about it... but after 3 years of time passing since a certain person snubbed me, it still stings. After 28 years of life, I haven't figured out where to buy a spine or a skin-thickening serum. And truthfully, I think people who say they don't care - that they've found the spine or thick skin - are even more insecure than us ;o)Melishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06790673507263670984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-39776984265800194712010-11-09T16:18:07.393-06:002010-11-09T16:18:07.393-06:00I totally get that....when I interact with people ...I totally get that....when I interact with people that don't seem to care for me, my stomach gets in knots and I totally psycho analyze what is wrong with me that makes me unlikeable....<br /><br />LOVE this quote though, thought you might too!<br /><br />"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." <br />— Dr. SeussPattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17971012085038794640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-87154014769286408852010-11-09T15:26:41.481-06:002010-11-09T15:26:41.481-06:00I am the exact same way. I take everything very pe...I am the exact same way. I take everything very personally. I wish I had really thick skin.Carihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081450531451538045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-71629381298729197462010-11-09T15:12:53.189-06:002010-11-09T15:12:53.189-06:00Tell them to kiss your arse. And if they have a p...Tell them to kiss your arse. And if they have a problem with MY friend, M...well, they can kiss my arse too. :)Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05472478935210732116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-69328784843062485072010-11-09T15:02:57.141-06:002010-11-09T15:02:57.141-06:00I know how you feel! I try so hard to please every...I know how you feel! I try so hard to please everyone, and when I don't measure up, I'm so hard on myself. I think it's a girl thing...dang hormones!<br /><br />I like you...and I don't even know you in person! You make me laugh everyday and I love your honesty in your blog. And you know what, there are at least 1272 people that feel the same way!TheFitHousewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162330713011240108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-5366994026215942442010-11-09T14:57:29.235-06:002010-11-09T14:57:29.235-06:00Why would anyone NOT like you?! I mean - really!? ...Why would anyone NOT like you?! I mean - really!? Haha. <br /><br />I'm being silly but i'm serious. I LIKE YOU, if that helps. :) You are cheerful & happy & fun. <br /><br />I am also a people pleaser & don't get it when people don't like me - for no reason? I don't DO something intetionally to make them not like me. But sometimes they don't. Oh-well. I just try not to worry about them!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14815407660365883762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-23630600837294935022010-11-09T14:45:28.300-06:002010-11-09T14:45:28.300-06:00Those people who choose to not like you, consider ...Those people who choose to not like you, consider it their loss. God made you in His image, and that is not something that can be changed or altered or tweaked. You are awesome just as you are, and continue being that person. I'm sure there are a lot more people who like you than don't :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05275909775932657243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-8936537252440313852010-11-09T14:31:04.155-06:002010-11-09T14:31:04.155-06:00Oh I so agree. Middle child here...totally get it....Oh I so agree. Middle child here...totally get it. I am good to the core and it boggles my mind when i am misunderstood ( i can't accept being "not liked"...I prefer to say "misunderstood!")<br /><br />You are good. You know it. And try not to let other people's opinions bring you down. :)Jodie (www.allgoodinmommyhood.com)http://www.allgoodinmommyhood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-71858163188528545392010-11-09T14:20:30.472-06:002010-11-09T14:20:30.472-06:00I know how you feel. I talk a big game and say I d...I know how you feel. I talk a big game and say I don't care what people think about me. But deep down I know I do. And its even worse when you have to be in the same room with them. A lady always tells me to be the better person and be nice. But I have a HARD time being the better person.The Price Family!https://www.blogger.com/profile/17113919462232707616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-8882493053698377962010-11-09T14:18:05.701-06:002010-11-09T14:18:05.701-06:00I think it's quite normal, probably being like...I think it's quite normal, probably being liked by everybody makes us feel secure, it's a survival instinct.<br />However I like you, that person must be jealous :Dalessandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02717630869734731630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-77445774008504342062010-11-09T14:17:59.862-06:002010-11-09T14:17:59.862-06:00I know EXACTLY how you feel. I to, try to be a go...I know EXACTLY how you feel. I to, try to be a good person, trying hard to treat others as I would like to be treated, but for some people, that isn't enough. And that should be OK...but it isn't in my heart.<br /><br />I need to let go of stuff too...some stuff I have been carrying on my heart for YEARS...but I won't...not because I don't want to, BELIEVE me...because I can't. That's just me.<br /><br />Hugs. I'm right there with you.Dawn and the boyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13175750274248485695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3919858889505423494.post-69560869982879468502010-11-09T14:00:27.108-06:002010-11-09T14:00:27.108-06:00It is hard. I am the same way about being a people...It is hard. I am the same way about being a people pleaser (middle child or something, who knows) but you are right. You cannot please everyone. Exposing myself through writing and blogging has really opened my eyes to this as well. I have become a bit tougher and a bit more "oh well, you win some, you lose some".<br /><br />Good luck to you. Just remind yourself that those most important to you, love and cherish you just the way you are.mdforkidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14468887103710530554noreply@blogger.com